“You must understand that love never keeps a man from pursuing his personal legend(purpose). If he abandons that pursuit, it’s because it wasn’t true love…the love that speaks the language of the World.” ~ Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist.
Dating and Relationships
The second week of the Love blog 2018 challenge and I am loving my consistency. I did not write about the five love languages from the first week . Right now it’s late to link it up but I’ll write about it as a post. You can also read about love languages as a book by Gary Chapman.
Let’s dive in. All I can say about dating is that I’ve been there, done that and I’m not doing it again, at least not now. Not because I’m still fawning over the past but because I need a break. Also, I am still in school and I believe I have to bring something to the table apart from assignments.😁
Yes at times you long for your point to counterpoint. At times it’s hard but sometimes you need to date yourself and get in touch with YOU.
When you keep dating or rather having the wrong entry to dating so to speak, and notice a cycle, then stop. A Sisyphean complex that needs to cease. Keep rolling that stone and you lose yourself.
Love should motivate you, be truthful, be accepting of the past because your past becomes my past and mine yours. Love should help you grow in faith and purpose. 1 Corinthians 13:4–7 defines love as not boastful or seeking its own. So if you’re dating/ courting, replace love with the person’s name. If it doesn’t ring in your head. It’s not it.
Faith, Love, and Compromise
In my experience, if you have to compromise your faith or beliefs, that’s not love. Serious advice aye😃? Dating tips 101 from Sarah Nderi. Since you’re here let me entertain you😊.
I discovered boys when I was 13, 14 I think. I had a crush on this guy, Let’s call him A. It was mutual and we were always talking even when not. Everyone and their mama knew about it but we didn’t care. We went through a lot of “persecution” about that. First loves are always sweet tied to the fact of naivety and owning up to feelings never experienced. Reminds of Elani Muziki’s song hapo zamani. Long story short, our trains left in different directions but we still talk here and there. Hey A, how you doing😊? I have dated after that but it has proven to be my Achilles heel when it comes to my faith and beliefs. All I can say is if you’re doubting, that’s not it.
Single-hood Theme Song?
So yes I’m single and I don’t know what my ideal date is. Probably someplace with nature, long walks and ice cream.
My current singlehood theme song is Dear no one by Torri Kelly. I discovered this song while listening to Pastor Toure Roberts teaching about singlehood, courtship, and marriage. I’d recommend it to you too.
What’s your dating life like? Is it dating or courtship. Courtship is dating, with the intent to marry or see if we’re compatible while dating is ‘let me see if I like it’👀👀. I think courtship is more responsible, what do you think? Let me know in the comments.