The Package & The Real Deal.

When someone makes a decision, he is really diving into a strong current that will carry him to places he had never dreamed of when he first made the decision. ~ Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist

Happy Thursday guys, days are flying at an amazing rate giving no time for procrastination.
Today we continue on Individuality and dwell more on the package deal. You as a package. Every package, has it’s description, it’s dos, don’ts and how to store it. As individuals we have different personalities, react differently and are angered by somewhat  different situations or outcomes.
When I decided to be single and work on my goals, school and writing. I  wrote about the package and the real deal.

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 The Package and The Real Deal.

Sometimes the real deal is way better than the description on it, sometimes worse, sometimes you have to man-oeuvre to really get it’s content which is also not a bad thing.
The real deal  blankets your beliefs, ideals,your opinions, personal boundaries etc
The real deal could be the same for him, ie what you look for, what’s the real deal for you, in terms of beliefs, backgrounds, age etc The package is more about your interests, hobbies, likes and dislikes and activities.
If I were to write the package for myself or rather what I wrote then was;

The Package;

  • Eonomist and Statistician- I am not doing all these maths to shelve them. I hope to use them practically.
  • Christian blogger – Christ will always be a part of me. I can’t afford to compromise that. I started this blog as an outlet for my faith and I have not sold out.
  • Beauty and Fashion blogger –  I’ve always loved fashion and I would love to do something in that field but I leave that to God.
  • Writer- I love writing. I enjoy it. Yes it requires discipline, yes sometimes I cringe when I think about it but It’s what I love and enjoy. Check out my latest post at AfyaSmile Kenya
  • Poet

The Real Deal

  • Christian- my faith is important to me. I have been in an unequally yoked relationship. I know the impact it has on someone’s life as even now there are some elements. I wrote about it Yoking with unbelievers.It may have seemed intolerance and all that, but I have learned what it means by guarding your salvation jealously and trust me a lot of boundaries are needed in the current world. This is a Christian blog, am not perfect but am not going to apologize on what is right. I respect other people’s beliefs though I may not necessarily agree with them.
  • Stable – This applies to all parties. Not so much related to finances unless you’re getting married soon but peace and contentment. Dealing and healing from the past.

    Your history becomes my history and so  do yours mine.

  • Kind, Fun and adventurous.

This is what I wrote back then, obviously my opinions are now well versed, more knowledge and more raw experience.  This post was quite lengthy and thanks if you read and stayed the whole time.
How do you achieve Individuality in your relationship? Let me know in the comments.

Listening to Broken Vessels(Amazing Grace) by Hillsong Worship

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  1. lovesdeepwaters April 3, 2018 at 5:05 pm

    Ugh,I have that on my scalp, miserable. I love writing too though sometimes I too cringe.

    1. Sarah April 3, 2018 at 6:01 pm

      Me too, do/are you over sharing/under sharing?

  2. Nancy Burton Wolfe February 17, 2019 at 2:10 pm

    What an interesting way to frame our lives. “Package and real deal.” I like it. And I admire your resolve as a Christian. It’s not always easy – but it’s simple: ” This is a Christian blog, am not perfect but am not going to apologize on what is right.” Good for you, my sister… xoxox

    1. Nderi Sarah February 17, 2019 at 2:27 pm

      Thanks Nancy. Yeah, it is always great to remember that there will never be a moment when we’ll be “perfect” Christians and we’ll always be flawed. The ideal idea is to stare forward to Jesus everyday and stay aware of our spiritual state while trusting Him to help us out.

  3. Brita Long February 20, 2019 at 7:33 pm

    These are great concepts to know about yourself. It’s important to have a solid understanding of who you are as a person and what matters most to you before you try to share your life with someone else.

    1. Nderi Sarah February 22, 2019 at 10:13 am

      It helps to know our faults too and where we come short so as to not hurt the relationship unknowingly.

  4. Charlene Maugeri February 21, 2019 at 9:18 pm

    Wow! I love this idea of the package vs. the real deal! I feel like the package is what everybody sees but when you get into a serious relationship, it’s important to start to show the real deal and see if you’re still compatible and can support each other in life!

    1. Nderi Sarah February 22, 2019 at 10:12 am

      True, what people see and what’s real. It’s important to know all these because we cannot hide our true nature while in a relationship whether pleasant or unpleasant.


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