If we approach love with healthy hearts, we don’t complain of boredom with our partners.~Kris Gage.
The #LoveBlogChallenge is here and the first week we are talking about love languages and how they affect us and our relationships. This doesn’t mean our romantic relationships but our familial and platonic relationships as well.
If you are yet to find out your love languages you can read this book; The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman or you can take this online test for free. (input link). You don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to take the test. They have a test for singles as well.
There are five love languages and the test will rank the highest score as 12. The love languages are; Acts of Service, Physical Touch, Quality time, Receiving Gifts and words of affirmation.
Test Results as a Taken Lady
Here are my results from the highest to the lowest in rank.
9- Physical touch
7-Acts of Service.
7- Quality Times.
3-Words of affirmation
Test Taken as a Single Lady
6-Words of affirmation.
5- Acts of Service.
2- Receiving Gifts.
You can see that for me Physical touch is the highest in rank. I love forehead kisses first and foremost. Physical touch doesn’t always mean physical intimacy but can also mean; holding hands, pats on the back, neck and back rubs, and thoughtful touches on the arms, shoulder or face.
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This love language goes hand in hand with Quality time as you can see from my results. Which is understandable because you have to be next to someone to touch them.
Know Your Partners Love Language
Having unexpressed expectations in a relationship is a key factor in causing it to crumble. You are going to be angry at someone when they fall short on things they didn’t even know they were supposed to do.
Which is the same with understanding your partner’s love language? You are basically loving them the way you’d want to be loved as opposed to how they want to be loved. Now, of course, our Partner’s love language could be something we hate doing. For example, if acts of service are their love language, they love it when you vacuum or do the laundry or garden which may not be something you like to do. But we do it for them; because that’s how they want to be loved.
Are you loving someone based on how they want or how you want? Do you and your partner understand your love languages? If not take this test and start from there.
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