There are many traumatic events that happen in life. These events may not seem as traumatic. In fact, it’s not for us to judge what’s not traumatic and what is traumatic but our souls and hearts. This is why healing is mostly inner deeper work. On our thought processes, our emotions and then our environment.
Here are 4 Steps To Self Care Following a Traumatic Event
Contact Friends and Family
When we go through a traumatic event like violence, death of a loved one, bad news or sickness we shut down. We might not know it but we can turn inwards as a self-preservation method.
When my grandma got a stroke in early 2019, I took a day off from work. It took a while to get over her health condition and it’s something I’m still dealing with. Months later, my parents fell ill one after another something I had not expected.
It has taken friends and family to get back on my feet, emotionally and mentally. I video call friends and family who are away, leave voice notes for others and I go home once a month to see my parents. It’s the little things that matter.
Find a Community
For the past two years, I have been involved in a project that helps women going through Gender-Based Violence in Kenya. My work was more of writing and engaging with communities. Finding a community of like-minded people, who have gone through and survived the same ordeals help accelerate healing.
Through such communities, you can access therapy, legal help, and attend events catered towards people seeking to heal.
In Kenya, you can access materials on therapy and Gender-based violence on MumsVillage. In the UK, CICA helps in claiming compensation for violence victims throughout the UK and you don’t need to be a citizen to apply. In case you’re in such a position, there’s an option of making a CICA claim through a dedicated solicitor. The cases are on a “no win no fee” basis, so they’ll charge you if they win the case.
I have found a community on Facebook of writers where we engage with each other. For me, writing is very therapeutic and a great way of processing. I also use journals.
Find a Therapist You’re Compatible With
What ails us at times is what we don’t know we haven’t processed. This is where a therapist comes in. You can ask for leads through communities and If you’re in a place you can’t access one, you can listen to some online resources.
I definitely recommend listening to Podcasts by Mindvalley and Youtube videos by Marissa Peer. These will give you a starting point on what you ought to do in your healing process.
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