Have you ever felt like you had lost your voice? You have nothing to say and nothing to write about which is unusual. You no longer journal, update your blog or engage people in conversations.
I ask this because, for a long time, I lost my voice. I allowed people’s words to get to me and stop me in my tracks. In this phase, I kept hoping someone would listen but wouldn’t speak because of words said by someone, someone I didn’t care about.
I think we all go through this phase where we let people define us. We accept their opinions and their projections of who we’re and run with them. These opinions don’t define us. At times, people attack us because we represent something they’d like to be, we have virtues they don’t have or we’re gifted in ways they wish they were. Which makes it sad if we lose ourselves, lose our words, lose our creativity and let mean words dim our spark.
Your Opinion Needs To Be Heard
When I’m having a bad day, I look at the emails and messages sent to me from people all over the world on how much this blog has helped them. Or how something I tweeted helped them. I get encouraged to write, to pursue art and to pursue my dreams.
What would happen if I had not written that blog post? I would be denying someone of my art and being selfish in the process. Writing is an art, what you do matters.
Your Work is An Extension Of Yourself
Say what you want to say, but I think the reason why creatives get so much heat is that people would love to be like them. To make something from nothing. To bring a concept to life. Books, music, art, movies are what’s keeping us sane in this social distancing period, which is ironical, as artists aren’t highly paid.
I also think that the main reason non-creatives find it hard working with creatives is that they like putting them in a box. Now I don’t mean that creatives should go off the radar and have zero work ethic, but it pays to know how to work and collaborate with one, as micromanaging them will lead to bare minimum work at best and strained relationships at worst. It’s also true that you don’t get their true potential in any project when you’re busy micromanaging them, and worse, being rude or condescending.
As a creative person, your work is an extension of yourself. You don’t hate criticism neither do you deflect, project or any of those terms that you’ve been labelled as. You just don’t like it when it’s dished out in a certain way, and I think this applies to everyone.
You’ll Find Your Voice in Collaborative Projects
In her book, The Freelance Content Marketing Writer, Jennifer Gregory says that it’s important for her to have a call with client so as to establish if they’re compatible and minimize the risk of a PITA (Pain In The Ass) client.
This really appealed to me. When you’re freelancing, then you have options of working with people you enjoy working with, people who bring you joy, and people who give you constructive feedback to act on.
If you find you have lost your voice, whether in art or writing, work on a few collaborative projects. They can be monetary or non-monetary. With collaborative projects, even when there’s a hierarchy, you feel free to express yourself and experiment to see different outcomes. This can give you back your voice, and show you more areas to explore.
You’ll Stop Taking Yourself Too Seriously
Have you ever realized that sometimes streams of consciousness work fine too? Not everything needs to be monetized, and sometimes our freehand art performs better than the perfectly planned ones.
Some of my best-performing Pinterest pins look terrible, and some of my ranking articles did not need any planning. Sometimes it pays to create for fun and not be too stuck up. I realize that there’s much more I could have done and will do with my site as I have stopped obsessing over minor things.
Your Writer’s Voice is Important in Your Writing Career
Which is why you can’t allow yourself to listen to naysayers, or let people choke the way you express yourself. People read people because of how they write, and their writing voice. I read John Gorman’s work because he’s Gorman, and writes in a way only Gorman can write.
I read Shaunta Grimes because I like how she puts words on paper and because she is Shaunta. I became a fan because I fell in love with their perception of life, or because they know what they’re doing, and they don’t hold back.
To find your writing voice, you have to write. You have to read more. You have to hang out with other writers, read their work, read more books and write some more. Only then do you find your writing voice. By reading, writing, and writing some more.
I hope you find your writing voice, acting voice, and the inner you that longs for expression.
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