Quit Telling People About your Dreams

It’s not a competition.

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Have you ever told someone your plans and then they are telling you theirs and suddenly it’s a competition? Me too. Sometimes people don’t understand why we do what we do, pursue what we pursue or even love what we love. At times we don’t understand what they love or pursue. It’s okay.

You are not meant to understand, you are meant to support.


If you tell your dream to naysayers, your dream is gone. They show you why it can’t work out, the obstacles, market saturation, so and so did it and it failed. Naysayers never moved from the amateur

Naysayers never actualized their dreams, ran out of tomorrows, planned and failed at execution, or are just too lazy to execute.

Ever notice when you start doing so good in your craft, some friends will leave?

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Steven Pressfield, says;

When a writer begins to overcome her Resistance — in other words, when she actually starts to write- she may find that those close to her begin acting strange. They may become moody or sullen, they may get sick; they may accuse the awakening writer of “changing” of “not being the person she was.” The closer these people are to the awakening writer, the more bizarrely they will act and the more emotion they will put behind their actions.


When a writer awakens, those close to her feel left out. Writing is a solo adventure and those who are not creative (we all are) are jealous of those who are, or those who have tapped into their creative mind. The awakening writer becomes a judgment to them that have not conquered their resistance to write, draw, paint or express their creative self.


The reason is that they are struggling, consciously or unconsciously, against their own Resistance. The awakening writer’s success becomes a reproach to them. If she can beat these demons, why can’t they? ~ Stephen Pressfield, The War of Art.

You might Seem Crazy

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I have some dreams that sound crazy, even to me. I don’t tell them to people unless I know they will offer solid advice or they too have done it. Every morning I wake up at 5 and dredge on. On my Journal are to be done lists to get closer to the dreams. I forge on.

When your dream sounds too big even for you, shut up. You don’t need anyone diluting it or your enthusiasm.

However, write the dream, break it into smaller goals and start tackling it.

Then the Lord answered me and said, “Write the vision And engrave it plainly on (clay) tablets, So that the one who reads it will run. Habakkuk 2.2 AMP.

Just don’t tell anyone, lest they make it sound ridiculous. Even to you.


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