Solitude: Let your Toes Burrow the Sand.

In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to learn upon itself.~ Lawrence Sterne.


Today’s prompt is solitude. It’s the 21st day of the love blog challenge hosted by Brita Long. I’m not a quiet person. I can’t qualify to be an introvert. That seat is reserved for my brother Victor, who’s quiet to a point of invisibility and who I love so dearly.

On that note, it’s safe to say that I’m an extroverted introvert, talkative but not socialūüėĄ.¬† Inasmuch as I love good company of friends and laughter, I delight in quiet and alone mornings and evenings, with coffee and a book. I’ll wake up early in the morning to pray, read, write and get inspired by the sweet drafty silence. Sometimes I tune in to Family Radio 316 at 6 while going to school or still in bed to listen to the preaching there.¬† Sometimes I just want to watch the sunrise.

‚Äúa man sitting on a rock surrounded by water‚ÄĚ by Keegan Houser on¬†Unsplash



I balance solitude and interacting with family and friends by being in tune with their needs to bond or listening to them. For example, if my mom comes to my room, sits and starts a conversation; I know she wants to bond or I have isolated myself too long. I stop watching or writing and speak to her. I try to read subtle cues.

When it comes to friends, I don’t want to be reading cues, let me know straight up when I shut down or seem distant, for example, today my friends were not particularly loving my having earphones in their presence. In my defence, there was great preaching on the radio.

I am learning to be alone without being lonely. I particularly love preaching by Bishop T.D Jakes on learning to be alone without being lonely. He says that we should not fill our space with things, items, or frequently having people over all the time especially if we are still learning and dating ourselves. I completely agree with him.


On the friendship front, I’m not short of friends. I have many friends and acquaintances.¬† On the dating front, I’m on a break. I want to sit, keep my legs in the sand and be happy. Rediscover myself and what I really want. I went through a break-up. In that relationship I felt I was losing myself, questioning and just sidelining my dreams and what I really want. There’s a lot about me that is unsaid, untold, not written, unsung and unforgotten. I’m still young and right now I and Jesus have a lot to work on, a lot.

One chapter of my life is almost ending(school), and I can’t wait to see what’s in store for me in the next. On the whole, I am loving the solitude, my me time.
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Other Love blog 2018 posts that have been loved and received so well(thanks guys) are;
Valentines for Single Students.
Do you love solitude? Introvert or extroverted? Self-proclaimed extrovert/introvert? What do you do in your alone time? Let me know in the comments.

Love, S.

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  1. GingerGoose Boutique February 22, 2018 at 3:48 am

    I felt so connected to you in this post. I am very similar. I call myself an ambivert. I am pretty outgoing but more introverted in my habits. I truly enjoy my quiet time. I am also on a break from dating. I find that when I’m in a relationship I become very concerned with my partner’s well being that many times I lose myself as you referenced. This was a wonderful and relatable read for me.

    1. Sarah February 22, 2018 at 4:06 am

      Me too. At times I feel like we’re going for and achieving their dreams and halting mine. So right now I am working on me.

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